Couples Counseling

My inquiry-based/curiosity-based work with couples is transformational. I have seen even the most tangled dynamics smooth out and I’ve seen people fall back madly in love. I’ve seen relationships smoothly end if that became the best choice. The dance of intimacy is tricky and it’s often pretty rocky. Our oldest wounds surface with the very people our subconscious believes it can be healed by. But because they are old wounds, they trigger old habits and patterns that get in the way and thwart us. Our work together focuses on identifying these and cultivating new habits and patterns that fit with who you are now, who you want to be, and how you aspire to be loved in the way that truly works for you.

The situations couples come in wanting to talk about vary, but a common theme is frustration with the relationship, for whatever reason that may have started. That said, I help with a really wide range of topics and concerns:

  • Sexual concerns, lack of intimacy
  • Misunderstandings, fighting
  • Infidelity, affairs
  • Premarital or divorce counseling
  • Making decisions
  • Money concerns
  • Ethical non-monogamy, polyamory

Along the way my clients report many or all of these benefits of our work together:

  • Better communication
  • Deeper intimacy
  • Loving sense of connection
  • Empathy and desire
  • Easier time relating
  • Having more fun

If you think I can help you, you’re probably right. Email me at or call me at (206) 979-6764 and let’s schedule a time to meet.

I offer Counseling for individuals as well.

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